Wanting to follow your dreams is SO. FREAKING. SCARY. There is something in human nature where not knowing what happens next scares us. We feel uncomfortable with the unknown, or the thought of failure. Whether you want to relocate to a new Country, like I did, or you want to start your own business, or take up a new hobby, leave a relationship, start a relationship, etc. the fact that we can’t see how that story ends, frightens us.
And I hear you! For years before I moved away my panic attacks were bad. My anxiety took over so much of my life I forgot who I was. I would be driving and all of a sudden I would get this pain so sharp that I felt like I was having a heart attack. Or I would be at home, cooking, cleaning, washing up, reading, and out of no where I would cry, or be so angry at myself. I hated myself. I then started to think I was a hypochondriac. Which just made me feel more shame!
I didn’t want to live that life anymore. I didn’t want to hate myself. I didn’t want to pretend that I was happy. I wanted to actually BE HAPPY. So I decided to chase after my dreams. I started with a vision board. I knew I wanted to travel and I knew I wanted to work with children. I spoke to my family about moving away, and heard their opinions before I shared my dreams with my friends. Soon enough, all I could think about was how to make my dream a reality. It looks me years to find the courage to move to a new Country. Years that I lost, in a sense. I wasn’t happy in those years, and I wasted precious time pretending to be happy, when I could have actually been happy.
This is why I am sharing my top 5 Reasons to Follow Your Dreams
soon, no – tomorrow, no – next week, no – next month, no- NOW!
- You’ll regret it later on. And, when you finally do take the plunge, you’ll be kicking yourself and saying “Why the hell didn’t I do this sooner?”
- You’ll grow as an individual. You’ll learn how to love yourself, and others. You will find new favourite foods, music, seasons.
- Stepping outside your comfort zone in other aspects of your life will feel less alien to you. You will stop making excuses for yourself.
- You will come across new opportunities; socially, professionally, personally.
- You will feel afraid and nervous, but by feeling afraid, you will have never felt so alive.
What are your dreams? What do you want to accomplish in your lifetime?
The only person that can hold you accountable is you. Sure, people are going to judge you, and that might
scare the s*** out of you make you feel uncomfortable. But if there is one thing that I have learnt from opening up about my life, and from talking with others, it’s that there are always going to be people who judge, people who hate, people who, if they didn’t have anything nasty to say, would have nothing to say at all.
But who cares!
I let my anxiety and fear of what people would think of me CONSUME me. Literally, I felt my sole being squirrelled away into a dark hole because I was so afraid that people would tell me I was ‘running away from my problems’ or that I was ‘childish for leaving’. And you know what? People did. But I also got a lot of support. I was supported by the people who mattered. I was told how brave I was, how they couldn’t do it, how they wish they could take the leap and follow their dreams. And most importantly, I was so proud of myself. For the first time in a long time, I could look at myself in a mirror and smile back at the person I saw.
I won’t lie, though, moving abroad was challenging. There were so many mini steps I didn’t know how to take. I didn’t know what to prioritise, or where to start. It was exhausting. There wasn’t step-by-step guides to moving abroad. Still, 6 years later, I am learning about things I haven’t done yet. But, even with all of that – It was so worth it. If I had to do it all over again, I would. And this time, I wouldn’t hesitate for so many years.
It’s cliché, but life is for living. So live it. And live it the way YOU want to. Not the way society has made you feel you should.
So, what are your dreams and how will you go after them?
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